Wounded Warrior Project has a program for wounded service members to do a paid internship then be matched up to a job after. Very cool. I talked to the founder of WWP a month ago about it. He really wants Cleve to look into it. It would basically ease him into the civilian world. Cleve and I have talked about it a little and he is interested. The only problem is the place is in Jacksonville Florida. It's pretty far away. We may or may not sell the house to go there. It's a year long program and the guy said a lot of the guys travel back and forth to home. I don't think I could handle a year away from him though and would prefer just selling the house and moving there. EVEN THOUGH we just went through all that to get it, I want him to find his place in the world and if this helps, who cares where we live. I dunno. Nothing is ever set in stone, it's just something we're throwing around for him.
I want to touch on something just for a second.
The more readers I've gotten, the more negative people have popped out of the wood works. I knew that could happen, but wasn't prepared for it. Anyway, I recieved an e-mail first thing this morning. Very hateful. Didn't like a lot of what I have written. I want to apologize to anyone I've offended. However, this blog is mine and I keep it as real as possible for a reason. I also want to point out that there are a lot of things in my life I am not going to broadcast on the world wide web. Serious things. But it's no ones business. I think I've been taken out of context on a few things because I really do use this blog as a tool to vent yet leave out details to protect my husband. It probably makes me sound like a bitch sometimes. Again, I'm sorry. Just please, if you don't like what I have to say, take it for what it is and move on. I'm human. I have emotions. They aren't always good and I'm working on it. Lastly, I may be angry at my husband sometimes but I really, truly cannot express how much I love him. No words give it justice. The man is my world. I would appreciate an ounce of respect. I do not like being questioned about my love for him.
This whole thing has been a journey for me. I was 20 when he was injured and had never experienced anything this serious before in my life. I am learning everyday and doing the best that I can.
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Im actually really glad I found your blog. I thought I was the only military wife out there who has bitter feelings...
You're always going to have that one person (or more) who doesn't agree with what you have to say. But that's just it, it's their opinion. Some people feel like they need to shove their opinion down everyone's throats. And that's why we have the rights that we do, so we can just say a big, fat, fuck you right back to them. (pardon my french)
Let me just tell you, that when you write negatively about your husband, I get it. Are there really wives out there who don't have anything to bitch about? And you two have been through A LOT, so keep on writing...whether it's positive or negative. We're all human..most of us.
I can't get you because I have not been where you are. I say tell the negative people BITE ME. The have no clue where you are coming from. I think you are doing a tremendous job of handing things they way you know how to. My hat is off to you.
Wow, I'm sorry that you have to deal with small people. Given everything you've put up with I think questioning your love for your husband is the dumbest thing I've ever heard!
There will always be people out there who are so unhappy with their own lives they feel the need to bring others down. Please don't let them get to you - you and Cleve know the truth and that's really all that matters.
That sounds like a great opportunity!! I hope you guys get to take advantage of it.
And I don't understand the negative people. If it bothers them, they should just close out of the screen and move on. Why take the time to be an asshole?
Excuse my language, but FUCK THEM! With that said, write what ever you want. You are not here to make people happy. You are here to share. If someone doesn't like it. The can STFU! People like that are ants. They are the ones that sit on the side lines of life and criticize, complain and question everything.....oh shit.....I just described myself.....um....yeah...so anyway....got to go!
screw the negative people....if they think their husbands are just a spitting image of perfection they need a realiy check.
i love reading your blog and seeing the journey you are going through is helpful, to many.
i hope everything works out with the WWP. good luck to both of you
I'm with everyone else. Forget the negative people. We all get them in some form- people who just don't have anything better to do. You are being you. What else can we ask for? I can't imagine the road you have been down, and I am impressed by all that you have handled. So you have a bad day, who doesn't? Ugh.
People need to calm down! It's your blog, you can say whatever the heck you want. And WHO doesn't get mad at their significant other sometimes?? So stupid.
This is your blog and you use it however you want. Honestly, I think that you are an extremely strong person dealing with an extremely difficult situation. You and your husband are learning as you go, and it is great that you have an outlet for your feelings in your blog.
You are handling everything life has thrown at you the best you can. And that is good enough. I'd like to see anybody else do what you do and NOT feel the need to vent every once in awhile. Tell anybody else who sends you nasty emails to suck it.
I think it sounds like a great opportunity. Hopefully everything will find its way to work out.
I think that's awfully that people have e-mailed you negative things. Do you really have to time in the day to be hurtful to someone else? If you truly don't agree with someone feelings or opinions you have every right not to read them. I don't think its fair for you though.
P.S. I left you an award on my blog
Hey,
Show me a wife who is never angry, upset or pissed off at or by her husband and I'll show you a single woman.
I agree with all those prior who say tell them to BITE YOU hard and keep stepping.
Hang in there, keep writing and if others don't like it; they don't need to read.
Jennifer
YAY! What an awesome opportunity. I am sure that if this is what you two want then things will fall into place.
By the way, you don't need to apologize for the emotions you are feeling. I love reading your blog, and I can't believe people have the nerve to tell you how you should be feeling during this tumultuous time in your life!!! How dare they....so keep on writing hon, because a majority of us love it.
I am a reader who sees you as a positive person going through some rough times.
I've never once thought that you don't love your husband - I honestly don't think you'd be there still if you didn't.
So whoever interprets that wrong just must not understand.
I've been following your story through the ups and downs ever since you added me on 20SB and my heart so often goes out to you.
I often just see a person venting their feelings and understand that what you feel in the heat of the moment is not necessarily what you feel a couple of hours, days or weeks later.
I wish the best for you and your husband.
People are idiots sometimes, and some of them feel the need to bash military spouses because of something we said. Hey, you know what? They can talk all they want to, but they DON'T live my life, they don't know how hard it is to say goodbye to my husband everytime he gets on his plane, and they don't know what WE GO THROUGH.
You are such an incredibly brave and strong woman and some people don't like that. Let them bitch all they want, but you keep your head up. After all, they are allowed the freedom to bitch thanks to your Husband defending our freedoms and country.
You should not apologize for YOUR blog and feelings, girl! I love your writing and fully support your and Cleve's journey through all of this! Screw these silly people who think they are something we know they are not! Seriously!! I ♥ you!!
Good luck w/the WWP, an awesome organization!
It's too bad that people can't be a little bit nicer - especially considering everything you guys have gone through. We all get upset sometimes! What wife doesn't get upset at her husband's employer?? In your case, and in many of ours who follow you, your husband's employer is the military! Screw ups happen, are you not supposed to get upset about them? You and Cleve are going through something more people will never experience - you need somewhere to release your frustrations - hence the blog! We were all told when we were little kids - if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all. It still applies to adults - unless whatever you're saying directly concerns this person, they should stay the F out of it.
Your blog is fantastic :) Don't listen to haters! It is refreshing to hear from a real military couple making it works. My husband is a Marine and though I hope we never have to work through what you and you husband have, it is nice to know that someone has been through it and made it.
tell them all to SUCK your TOE :-)
thinking bout ya! glad to hear the good news..
Kelly
This week I have spent reading your blog at work when I'm not busy and some at home. I have read it from the beginning to the present. I am truly touched. I don't think I would have been able to handle everything you have been through. You truly are a strong, devoted, amazing woman.
I thank god everyday that my husband came back from war with everything he left with. He has no PTSD. We both feel very fortunate that he is fine.
I truly believe everything will be ok for you. Only the strong survive right? Take care of yourself and know that your story has truly touched me.
I'm with a previous commenter - fuck 'em! :)
Somebody who took the time to write an *email* with hateful thoughts has some really big problems. Just create a rule in your email program that sends any future emails from that address directly to the trash. :)
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